I often hear 2 main concerns after a client’s first hypnosis session. Interestingly enough, these concerns are completely opposite from one another.
Sometimes a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I could hear everything you said during the trance.”
Other times a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I don’t remember anything you said during the trance.”
Curious, right? So which client was hypnotized?
Don’t be misled by theses 2 signs. Read on to find out more, and to discover what kinds of things hypnosis can help you with.
What is Hypnosis?
First, what is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a state of focus, and quieting or softening, of the analytical or conscious mind. (Does hypnosis work? Yes, and you can read more about how it works here.)
So which client was hypnotized?
When you’re in a state of hypnosis and you hear every word the practitioner says, it means your conscious mind is paying close attention.
Alternately, when you don’t remember anything the practitioner said during the trance, it means your conscious mind drifted off.
Either way is best because with hypnosis I’m not speaking to the conscious mind anyway, I’m speaking to your unconscious mind.
The unconscious mind is 95% of the brain, and it’s where your deeply held beliefs, patterns, and behaviors are stored. Hypnosis helps you access this part of the mind to connect to your intuition and make positive changes.
What are some issues hypnosis can help with? Just this past week, I used hypnosis to help clients with confidence, sleep issues, chronic procrastination, anxiety, and public speaking.
Here’s what clients say about their experience with hypnosis:
I know a lot of people out there are skeptical about hypnosis or hypnotherapy. I was one of them too before I met Deborah. (By the way, I did a lot of research before making the final decision to see her.) I’ve had three sessions with Deborah so far. First two sessions, hypnosis helped me feel relaxed and calm emotionally. I could never imagine myself being so relaxed and peaceful, especially in the middle of Manhattan. No way! —Tom P.
A terrific session with Deborah, who’s friendly, powerful, generous. I am dealing with issues of grief, but also a touch of writer’s block…something I consider part of the process, but I figured hypnosis might push through my hesitancy. The next day I zoomed through the problematic part of what I was writing and am rolling on! Unbelievable, except I’ve had incredible results with Deborah before. –Katherine V.
I cannot express how amazing Deborah is and how drastically my life & outlook has changed for the better since my first hypnosis session. Seven months ago, I went to see her while I was in a horrible state of depression as I was re-adjusting back to my hometown of NYC after leaving a draining job but much more comfortable lifestyle in the Middle East, and rekindling a negative past relationship at the same time. Within 45 minutes of my first hypnosis session, I let go of lots of negative feelings from my past & present and felt so much happiness! –Sarah C.
Many people think hypnosis is an odd thing to do. That it won’t work for them. I encourage you to try it and have an open mind. It just might be more amazing in Session 1 than you imagine. My nutritionist recommended Deborah and so far I’ve lost 40 pounds. I’m very pleased and am down a size. I’m throwing my old clothes away because I’m convinced the changes are permanent.
I also actually enjoy our sessions a lot. I go into deep relaxation in a minute or two. Deborah has given me self-hypnosis exercises I do at home that help me relax, resist eating, and give me peace of mind. Before I tried hypnosis I thought I wouldn’t be a good subject. But I was wrong and would encourage you to give it a shot, whatever you are trying to achieve. –Jerry S.
I’d never been to a hypnotist before, but had struggled with anxiety disorder for at least a decade. I had tried a lot to improve it — diet, exercise, meditation, lowering stressors in my life — but was unwilling to turn to medication as a full-time answer. A friend had visited Deborah for her anxiety, so I decided it was worth a try.
The session felt very relaxing and enjoyable. Deborah taught me how to continue with self-hypnosis as needed. I felt much more relaxed after my session, and the anxiety symptoms didn’t return until a week later. I did the self-hypnosis and they were gone almost right away. They returned less intensely a few times after that, and each time I did the self-hypnosis. Now it’s been almost a year and those symptoms are (knock on wood) entirely gone. I had no idea it would work so quickly and efficiently!
Deborah said I was teaching my brain to channel anxiety in a different way, and even that visual helped me to re-imagine my experiences of fear and worry. I 100% recommend a session with Deborah, and suggest being completely open and trusting of what she’s saying. I don’t think it would work as well without trust in yourself and in her method. –Peggy K.
Have something you want to change or work through, and you’re not sure if hypnosis can help? Let me know and we can discuss it. I’m here to help! Or go ahead and book a session here.
Good question, right?
I had a new client tell me that the effects of hypnosis wear off. He was very matter-of-fact about it but it surprised me.
It surprised me mostly because I added hypnosis to my practice because I’ve found it so effective at helping people (including me!) make lasting positive changes. In fact, I told him I wouldn’t use it in my practice if it didn’t.
But he does bring up a good point.
Every now and then I’ll see a client who felt the effects of hypnosis work for a while, but then after a few months or so, it didn’t. For example, one client quit smoking for 6 months but then went back to it.
There’s a very good reason for this: secondary gain.
Secondary gain is a medical term that means a person has a hidden reason (often unconscious) for holding onto a negative behavior or condition.
An example: I had a client who came to me to quit smoking. She became a nonsmoker for 6 months and then went back to it. She thought the reason she started smoking again was because it was a way for her to relax, socialize with friends, and manage her stress. We did a hypnosis technique and she was surprised to realize smoking connected her to her mother who had passed away. Her mother had been a chain smoker for most her life and when my client smoked, she felt connected to her mother.
A good reason to smoke, right? (Though probably not something her mother would want for her daughter.)
Using hypnosis, the client came up with new ways to feel connected to her mom without needing to smoke. Happy ending: she’s been a nonsmoker going on 2 1/2 years.
Think of some behavior or condition you want to change. Come up with a list of 10 reasons to keep doing the negative behavior or staying in the negative condition. This will help you consciously think about possible secondary gains.
Need more guidance to find out what might be going on unconsciously? Book an appointment.
I remember the first time I tried hypnosis. I was pretty nervous and didn’t know what to expect. I was afraid I was going to feel out of control, maybe sharing stuff I wasn’t comfortable sharing with a complete stranger. Many of my clients share these concerns when coming to me for hypnosis for their first session.
By the end of my first session, I was really surprised by how deeply relaxed I felt, how connected I felt to my intuition, and how easy it was to make changes in my life. I get feedback like this over and over from my clients as well.
So I’m sharing 3 of the top concerns I hear from people, in the hopes you’ll have a better understanding of how hypnosis works and how it can help you.
1. You’re Unconscious
I think the biggest misconception about hypnosis is that you’re unconscious. Sometimes clients think they won’t remember anything about being in a trance (trance is just another word for hypnosis).
You’re actually aware of everything that’s going on. MORE…
I sometimes get asked this question, and I think it’s a good one: What’s the difference between hypnosis and meditation?
While there are many different kinds of meditation, usually the goal is to achieve a state of mindfulness or awareness with no preconceived goal. It’s more of a passive attentiveness: noticing what arises and letting it go. (Sometimes easier said then done!)
All we are is changing. –John Overdurf
With hypnosis, it’s more strategic. You’re intentionally focusing on a specific outcome or goal (e.g reducing anxiety, alleviating pain, increasing confidence, quitting smoking, etc.). Specific changes in how you’re feeling are actively pursued and explored so you can make positive changes in certain behaviors or ways of thinking. Basically, you’re more in control, and as the brilliant hypnosis coach/teacher John Overdurf points out: it’s all about changing.
In other words, with meditation you’re focused on clearing your mind, with hypnosis you’re purposely using suggestions to redirect your attention to predetermined positive outcomes.MORE…