I just finished a great class this past weekend with the amazing trainer John Overdurf.
We talked a lot about how the brain works when we’re trying to make a decision, and ways to optimize this process so we can make better ones.
I always love John’s classes–he’s always finding new techniques to facilitate peak performance. In fact, he trains top CEOs (e.g. the head of Toyota).
Read on to discover how to make better decisions with hypnosis. I’ll show you an easy question you can ask yourself when you’re in the process of making a decision, as well as how hypnosis can put you in the right state of mind to have an Ah-ha moment.
Decision-Making Gone Wrong
We often forget a couple of key things when we make decisions.
1. We think that we can accurately predict the future, when actually variables are always changing (including us!). I know I’m guilty of often trying to live in the future–can you relate?
2. We often try to make important decisions when we’re stressed. When we’re in a negative state, such as feeling stressed, we’re only using half our brain (the dominant hemisphere). This severely limits our options.
So how to make better decisions with hypnosis?
Hypnosis helps us use both parts of our brain, activating the sub-dominant hemisphere. This helps us access our intuition and creativity, feeling relaxed and connected to ourselves.
Hypnosis also helps us reinterpret problems, noticing what is new and different. This is when the Ah-ha moments happen, and we can come up with solutions we never even considered before.
One Simple Question
Here’s a simple question you can ask yourself when you’re getting ready to make a decision. Hypnosis greatly facilitates this process, but you can do this on your own as well. Before you ask this question, do something to get yourself in a relaxed state of mind: maybe closing your eyes and taking a few deep breaths.
Then ask yourself:
What’s the smallest next step I need to take involving this decision?
So often we think too big picture, and we become overwhelmed and stressed. I’ve learned to ask myself this question whenever I’m working on a big project and find it really helps. It’s such a simple question, and yet it’s such a powerful way to retrain your brain (which is what hypnosis is all about).
Asking yourself this simple question makes it more manageable, and will give you more information to go on once you’ve completed this next smallest step as you engage in the process of making decisions.
Then you can repeat the question, step by step, working toward figuring out what you want to do and making better decisions throughout.
Need some additional help? Schedule a hypnosis session and we’ll work through the process together. I’ll also show you the Necker Cube technique to help further facilitate the A-Ha moment!
When I think back to when I took my first Reiki class over 8 years ago, I had no idea it would change my life so dramatically. (And I definitely didn’t think I would be a Reiki teacher and practitioner.)
I can truly say it has improved (and continues to improve) every aspect of my life.
The quote from a recent student below reminds me of all the ways my Reiki practice helped me make positive changes. Some examples:
- Health: I overcame an “incurable” thyroid diagnosis.
- Relationships: I was able to finally change some long-held negative relationship patterns and meet someone who is perfect for me. (I love you, JT! And no, that doesn’t stand for Justin Timberlake!)
- Career: I made a huge career transition and found fulfilling work I truly love.
- Finances: I found myself spending and needing less.
- Time: I stopped rushing from one thing to the next, and even started arriving on time.
- Creativity: I started writing and publishing my poems after a long hiatus, and have a book coming out next year.
Now this list isn’t something that magically changed the day after my first Reiki I class. And there have definitely been ups and downs, because life isn’t a straight line. But being able to have a simple way to take care of myself by giving myself Reiki each day has been profound. I always knew meditation was good for me, but found it so difficult to stick to a daily practice–Reiki was just the thing.
Reiki is a great way to manage stress and promote healing for yourself and your loved ones. It’s easy to learn and practice and you literally have the ability to heal yourself with your own hands 24/7. People often ask me what to expect from taking a Reiki I class and I tell them about 5 major benefits.
Are you interested in a simple, daily practice to help you find balance in all aspects of your life? You can sign up here.
This is a photo of the most recent Reiki I students. We had a lot of fun, and most of them just finished Reiki II last week.
I always love hearing how my students transform and grow as a result of incorporating Reiki into their daily lives.
Here’s what one student had to say: I loved the Reiki I course! Interestingly, all of us seemed to be going through some transitions in our lives, and I was really amazed at how this work positively impacted so many aspects of my life. I immediately felt that my health benefited – breathing became so much easier and my yoga practice became deeper and more rewarding. I also feel like it allowed me the ability to communicate in a more articulate manner – and from an honest and inspired place – which has made me a better teacher in my work and partner in my relationship. It’s also easier making decisions and feeling good about my choices, and as a result some wonderful and exciting new things are happening.
I am continuing to practice Reiki on myself and my family (including my dog and cats) and we all love it. It has really brought a lot of peace into our home.
I highly recommend this course. I had no idea the results would be so profound! –Annmaria M.
Recently a client came to me to help her overcome procrastination.
She felt like she should be chained to her desk every day being creative. (The image of being chained to your desk doesn’t exactly inspire creativity, does it?)
The day before her session, she went to the park in the middle of the day and felt extremely guilty about it. She didn’t realize it until we started talking, but while she was in the park she came up with a completely new idea to use in her work creating illustrations.
Now, I’m constantly inspired by my clients, but this time I immediately applied that inspiration to my own life. After her session I went to Madison Square Park during a short break between clients.
I felt guilty as well, but this time it gave me pause.
During Hypnosis she had an image of a bee as a symbol. The bee has the freedom to fly around and get sustenance to take back to the hive.
My client realized that like the bee, getting away from her desk actually helps her creativity and increases her work productivity. Because she has her own business she can take advantage of her flexible schedule (plus there’s many times when she’s working on weekends or late at night, well beyond the 9am-5pm hours of a job in an office. No need for guilt!)
And me? Well, a brassy squirrel petted me on the shoulder while I was sitting on a park bench. Maybe he was trying to tell me to relax and enjoy all the beautiful blooming flowers in the park.
I returned to my office with flowers in my hair (I didn’t realize that some little flowers blew in my hair while I was in the park!). I felt rejuvenated and happy. Having a positive mindset could only have benefited my next client, right?
What’s something you feel guilty about, but if you think about it, you know is good for you? Getting extra sleep, saying no, doing something to care of yourself…. this week, do one thing that you know is good for you and examine any accompanying guilt and let it go.
As always, I love hearing what you come up with, so let me know!
Not trying to be anything other than who you are.
That’s an absurdly difficult thing to do and it can take many years.
I just finished reading a beautiful book by Maira Kalman. For those of you who aren’t familiar with her, Kalman is an illustrator, author, artist, and designer (here are some of her New Yorker magazine covers). I love her work and her play with words and images.
Her quote above is so true: it takes time for us to be who we really are. For Kalman, it comes down to intuition and the courage it takes to be an individual.
The past few weeks I’ve seen a lot of clients who are artists: several actors, an opera singer or two, and a few writers. Each of them wanted help letting go of layers of self-doubt, fear of failure, fear of success, and the judgment of others, so that they can silence their inner critic and tap into their creativity and who they really are.
When I thought about it, I realized almost every person who comes for a session or takes one of my classes really wants help being who they are, whether they’re an artist or not.
It seems so simple and yet, being ourselves, underneath all the layers of expectations from ourselves and others, ideas of who we “should” be, limitations we place on ourselves or let others place on us, can be hard to find sometimes.
When we’re connected to who we truly are, that’s when we find success. Look around and notice how that’s true–or maybe think about times when you’ve pushed, trying to force success rather than being in the flow of who you are and allowing it to happen. In addition to making it easier to achieve success regarding your goals and pursuits, it’s a lot more comfortable and fun.
Similarly, when you think about the best artists out there–they’re the ones that don’t need the audience, it’s more of an offering, sharing with the audience who they truly are and letting others participate in that shared experience through the art form. That’s what makes Kalman so successful as an artist–she’s not afraid to show her eccentricities and unique way of looking at the world. And people love her for that.
What’s one layer you can let go of?
Inspired and want help with this? Book a session.