I recently participated in the 2018 winter Reiki Healing Summit, which featured 38 Reiki Masters and Teachers from around the world, and I wanted to share 10 highlights from my interview. I was interviewed by Reiki Rays about my book, Building a Powerful Practice: Successful Strategies for Your Wellness Business, and addressed some of the common pitfalls and concerns of wellness practitioners dealing with the business side of practice building.
As a wellness practitioner, you have an amazing opportunity to help people who really need it. Yet so many practitioners struggle to make a living doing the work they love.
I had to figure out the nuts and bolts of starting a business from scratch, and I wanted to share what I learned, as well as advice from other accomplished practitioners and teachers, to make it easier for new practitioners.
Here are 10 key things no one tells you about starting your own wellness business:
1. Don’t quit your day job.
If you’re making a career transition to a wellness practice, don’t give up your day job! It takes time to build a strong client base with enough clients to sustain a full-time wellness practice. An additional income source—from a full-time job or part-time work—can help you worry less as you build your practice.
Figure out the kinds of client issues and challenges you especially enjoy working with. This will set you apart and help the right kinds of clients find you.
3. Experiment & be open.
Building a successful wellness practice is hard work, and there will be ups and downs along the way. Be in an open mindset as you experiment with different ways of running your business and finding new clients.
4. Get organized.
Develop a system for keeping track of client information, income and expenses, and tax payments. Maintaining order in the administrative and financial aspects of your business will allow you to focus more on the work you love: helping clients.
5. Limit your client hours.
I know! This one sounds surprising but treatment hours are very different than working full-time at other kinds of jobs. With this work, you need to be very present for your wellness clients, and it can be taxing emotionally and physically. Seeing clients full-time is 15-20 hours a week in terms of treatment hours.
6. Monitor your growth.
Speaking of treatment hours, as you grow your practice and do more sessions in a day, be mindful of this growth: it’s all the more important that you take time to take care of yourself and have a strong meditation and self care routine.
7. Set a consistent schedule to see clients.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but being clear about the days and times that work best for you will make it easier to book clients rather than asking prospective clients when they want to come in. For example: “I see clients on Tuesdays and Thursdays between 6pm-8pm.” This provides a clear container and boundary. It also comes across as professional to your prospective clients.
8. Don’t offer a sliding scale or pay-as-you-wish.
If you’re not in a financially stable position with your practice, how can you possibly offer pay-what-you-wish sessions? Each person will need to make this decision for themselves, but I think it’s essential to remember that you need to be able to take care of yourself and your financial needs to better be able to take care of others.
9. Figure out how to avoid burn out.
As you figure out a schedule that works for you, consider having a set time when you “turn off”—for example, maybe you don’t do work in the hour before bed, or maybe Sundays are reserved for downtime. Figure out when you work best, as you find balance between work time and downtime.
10. Take good care of yourself.
Schedule wellness sessions for yourself on a regular basis. (Hint: this will also help you become a better practitioner, as you learn about the work you do from the inside out and address your own issues and challenges.)
To learn more about the book, get a free online Business Starter Kit, and to read a sample chapter of the book, read more here. Basically, I want to make it as easy as possible for you to get your wellness business up and running!
As someone who has always loved living in my head (reading, thinking, writing, analyzing, often overanalyzing!) being grounded is not something that comes naturally to me. To compound matters, I was not an outdoors type of person. My mom used to force me to go outside as a kid, because left to my own devices I would have preferred staying inside and reading for hours. (Thanks, Mom!)
Living in New York City, I see a lot of clients and Reiki students with anxiety, as well as people who have trouble quieting their mind, and empaths who feel overwhelmed by the energy and feelings of those around them. Being grounded can really help, so I put together this list of 25 easy techniques on how to stay grounded.
First, what does it mean to be grounded?
To be grounded is to be fully present in your body, to be connected to the earth, to the world around you, to your breath and the way it moves through your body, to be aware of your emotions and how you’re feeling. Being grounded means you remember that you have a physical body.
By balancing the energy in your head with the energy in the rest of the body you can connect to your feet and how they touch the earth.
Here are 25 easy ways to help you stay grounded.
1. Pound the bottoms of your feet with your fists for a couple of minutes. We have 14,000 nerve endings on the bottoms of our feet, and this will help activate them and redistribute our energy into the feet and instead of the head.
2. Pound the outside of the legs from the hips down to the feet with your fists (you can do this gently or more firmly). This will help energize and stimulate the Chinese meridians, or energy pathways located on the outside of the legs. Again it helps move the energy into the feet.
3. Try reflexology. It’s probably one of the most grounding kinds of bodywork because it’s focused on the feet. Reflexology is based on the principle that a map of the body is represented on the feet. Applying pressure to specific points stimulates the nerve endings on the feet and balances the nervous system. (Anxiety is a sign that the nervous system is out of balance.)
4. Take a bath with sea salt or Epsom salts. This is one of the most popular spiritual grounding techniques. While swimming in a lake or the ocean can really connect us to the earth, a bath can be an easier option (or try a foot bath if you don’t have a bath tub).
How can an empath protect themselves? This is an especially good tip if you have a tendency to feel too much and take on other people’s energy and emotions.
5. Use essential oils that are grounding such as cedarwood or pine (any essential oils from trees). I absolutely love Andrea’s Alchemy grounding cedar oil roll-on blend.
6. Try Donna Eden’s Daily 5-Minute Energy Routine for a week and notice how your body feels. This routine is another helpful tip for empaths to protect themselves.
7. Work out: any form of exercise gets you into your body and out of your head: kick boxing, yoga, running, walking. Do the kind of exercise you enjoy and you’ll be more likely to do it regularly.
8. Experience sensory deprivation: sometimes referred to as an isolation or flotation tank, the tank is filled with 1,000 pounds of Epsom salts, with water at skin temperature, and devoid of sound and light. The mind is free from distraction and the body is free from gravity. I tried it at Lift Floats.
9. Try Frans Stiene’s grounding exercises. Known as the Reiki teacher’s teacher, and someone who flies around the world constantly to teach, Frans knows the importance of being grounded. Try both of his spiritually grounding techniques and compare.
10. Buy a weighted blanket. The heaviness is restorative and calming for the nervous system. I sleep more deeply and wake feeling refreshed. Talk about literally grounding you to the earth!
11. Go on a news fast for a couple days, or even a week. This can serve as a reset, helping you evaluate the frequency of news you intake and how it affects your mindset and body. Hint: the mind might love the chatter and 24/7 news cycle, but the body definitely doesn’t.
12. Leave your smart phone at home for a day. (I know! Can you even imagine?) I have one client who was sleeping with her phone under her pillow and checking news alerts on her phone first thing when she woke up, as well as endlessly throughout the day.
Those news alerts can trigger a very strong fight or flight response in the nervous system. So often the full news story takes time to become available, and there’s usually nothing we can do in the moment (except feel anxious and worried which doesn’t help anyone).
13. Meditate. Meditate. Meditate. This is a calming way to train the brain (Hypnosis is another). If you don’t have a practice in place, try the free Insight Timer app. It has lots of guided meditations for a range of issues, which are often easier to stick with if you’re just starting out.
14. Learn Reiki. Reiki is a simple way to connect to your intuition and center your mind and body. In my Reiki classes, I teach additional spiritual grounding techniques such as the purifying breath and dry bathing to help you center your energy and feel grounded. Again, this is another tool for empaths to protect themselves. (Learning Reiki years ago is what finally helped me meditate regularly after years of unsuccessfully trying other methods.)
15. Ask yourself “what’s the next smallest step I need to take?” This trains your brain to stay on track and to be as close to the present moment as possible, rather than running 20 steps ahead and getting overwhelmed. I learned this from top hypnosis trainer John Overdurf. Changed my life.
16. Walk barefoot on the earth—rock, dirt, grass, sand…. For thousands of years our ancestors did this as a matter of course. The fact that this isn’t an easy thing to do living in a big city like New York tells us something about our literal and metaphorical connection to the earth.
17. Try forest bathing. Spend time in nature and see how it changes your energy: walk by the river, spend time in a park, go for a hike, etc. In Japan, they call it forest bathing—immersing yourself in the forest for relaxation—doesn’t that sound beautiful? The Washington Post identified it as the latest stress-reducing trend in the U.S.
18. Get fresh flowers or plants for your home, as well as rocks or sea shells, especially if you live in a high-rise building because you’re farther away from the earth. Think about it, our ancestors didn’t live in the air.
19. Get crystals that are good for grounding—some of my favorites include selenite, shungite, and black tourmaline, but experiment and follow your intuition on what feels grounding to you. Energymuse.com has two good articles on crystals for grounding.
20. Lay in the grass and imagine any negative emotions or physical imbalances sinking into the earth and being recycled. (You can do this in the winter but it may be more enjoyable on a nice summer day.)
21. Stand and lean against a tree and imagine your heart becoming calm and your feet connecting to its roots.
22. Eat grounding foods: root vegetables, cooked foods, hearty stews (as opposed to raw foods like salads). This doesn’t mean don’t eat salads, but you want to experiment and see what foods help you feel more grounded, and find a nice balance depending on the time of year and temperature, as well as what’s going on in your life.
23. Drink more water than you normally do—the human body consists of 60-70% water and the body needs it for optimal function.
24. Cook a healthy meal. Think about it, cooking your own food is different than eating out or getting food delivered. Cooking brings you into the present moment in a very practical way—forcing you to pay attention as you measure the ingredients, follow the details of the recipe, and keep track of timing to ensure your food doesn’t burn, etc. You could take it a step further and reflect on where the food came from and all the people involved—from the farmer to the truck driver to the grocery store clerk—for this food to be here on your plate.
25. Develop a daily routine of things that personally help you feel grounded. Experiment with the list above and add your own. Know that this is personalized to you and will change depending on time of year, weather, stress levels, and what’s going on in your life, etc. Aim to do one or two of these practices and techniques on a daily basis.
Staying grounded can be one of the most important ways to connect with yourself: bringing the soul, mind, and body together. By acknowledging that you live on Mother Earth, honoring this connection and support not only to the Earth, but to your body that allows you to be here and to feel the full range of human experience is why we are here. Thank your feet for their efforts to do this every day for us.
It’s that time of year, and I wanted to compile a heart-centered list of health and wellness gifts for the season. I’ve seen other wellness gift guides, but they seem mostly centered around fitness, so I’m taking it in a different direction.
From reflexology tools, books on spirituality and health, to Tarot and oracle cards, to essential oils and sprays, these are some of my personal favorites that help me find health and balance and connect to my intuition. I hope you find them helpful (and fun) and perfect for someone on your list (or perhaps something for yourself!).
Giving and receiving can be a beautiful cycle, and here’s to opening up to this, and savoring time with loved ones during the holiday season.
Hope you enjoy!
Here are the categories I cover for the best gifts for stress relief and relaxation:
For Reflection: Journals & E-Courses
For the Mind: Must-Read Books & Hypnosis Tools
For Intuition: Tarot & Oracle Cards
For the Nose: Essential Oils & Sprays
For the Taste: Teas & Spices
For the Feet & Body: Reflexology Tools
For Ease of Use: Gift Certificates
For Reflection: Journals, E-Courses, & Games
Using the principles of positive psychology, this journal helps you cultivate gratitude, promote inner growth and self reflection, and overcome negative thought patterns in 5 minutes a day—sounds like one of the top gifts for stress relief, right? I’ve been using it every day for over a year and noticed a huge difference in my mindset.
Here’s more about my personal experience using it.
Susannah Conway offers a range of beautiful e-courses to help you connect to your intuition. (I’ve taken all of them, I think.) This course teaches you to tune into your own creativity and intuition using Tarot and oracle cards (see below for deck recommendations). Her free Love Letters (her e-newsletter) are wonderful, too!
This is a great game to bring families together (they’re in the midst of a kickstarter campaign). Research shows that family conversations are good for the spirit, brain and health. Developed by one of my lovely clients!
For the Mind: Must-Read Books & Hypnosis Tools
May Cause Miracles: A 40-Day Guidebook of Subtle Shifts for Radical Change and Unlimited Happiness
Gabby Bernstein offers a straight-forward plan to release fear and allow gratitude, forgiveness, and love to flow through you. The book makes change manageable, giving bite-sized exercises to do each morning and evening. I loved how the daily exercises built on each other over the course of 40 days, making transformation sustainable (and enjoyable!).
The Tapping Solution
This book by Nick Ortner provides a great foundation about how EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique, otherwise known as tapping) works, as well as chapters that cover how to use it to alleviate pain/illness, lose weight, create healthy relationships, make money, and eliminate phobias. It’s one of the most powerful tools I use with clients and among my favorite gifts for stress relief.
Gorilla Thumps and Bear Hugs
This a cute EFT book for kids. Kids are people, too, and I love that they can learn at an early age how to manage stress and worry.
Greens Glorious Greens
Looking for gifts for healthy eaters? I love this cookbook with more than 140 delicious recipes for beautiful, leafy greens. It gives me creative (yet easy) ways to incorporate more veggies into my meals. Yum.
The Book of Awakening
I recently started reading this beautiful book. Mark Nepo wrote the book in response to his journey through cancer, and it led him to create a day book not only for people going through life-threatening situations but for everyone. I highly recommend this daily companion to read throughout the year.
The Artist’s Way
In sessions, I will often recommend writing a letter, journaling, or finding other ways to tap into your creativity through the written word. Julia Cameron’s classic book, The Artist’s Way, continues to stand the test of time. The book’s premise is that creative expression is vital no matter your profession. She guides you through a twelve-week program to recover your creativity from various blocks such as limiting beliefs, self sabotage, guilt, fear, and addiction.
Rise Sister Rise
A few of my Reiki III students recommended Rise Sister Rise to me and I highly recommend it to you. Rebecca Campbell offers tools, rituals, and questions to consider to help you access your own feminine wisdom, intuition, and power. (No matter our gender, we each have a masculine and feminine side so this isn’t just for women).
So many people I know are making big career changes. Looking for gifts for new business owners or know someone in your life who wants to become a wellness practitioner of any flavor (Reiki, reflexology, massage, acupuncture, hypnotist, or life coach, etc.)?
I wrote Building a Powerful Practice: Successful Strategies for Your Wellness Business to help practitioners find clients in person and online, market to their ideal client base (even for those practitioners that think they don’t like marketing), put together creative packages and promotions, and avoid burn out.
Uncommon Knowledge offers an extended list of hypnosis downloads for a range of issues (some of their most popular help with exercise motivation, procrastination, self esteem, focus and concentration, weight loss, insomnia, and even drinking less wine!). I like their recordings and approach a lot (and even bought one for my Dad for Father’s Day to help improve his golf game–after all, most professional athletes use some form of hypnosis for peak performance).
While recordings aren’t able to be as personalized as one-on-one hypnosis sessions, it can be helpful between sessions or to try hypnosis out and see if it’s something you can benefit from. These recordings are fabulous gifts for relaxation.
For the Nose: Essential Oils and Sprays
Wyndmere Essential Oils
Wyndmere oils are high quality yet affordable, and I’ve been using them for years. The sense of smell is one of the oldest parts of the brain and therefore one of the fastest ways you can change your state of mind.
Some of my favorite blends include Serenity, Anxiety Relief, and Stress Relief.
I also love the Neroli hydrosol (orange blossoms!), as well as the Rose Garden and other roll-ons.
(Whole Foods and some health food stores carry Wyndmere as well.)
This brand includes a combination of essential oils and flower and gem essences. They are more delicately scented than regular essential oils. The sacred space gift sets are lovely and Calling All Angels Spray is my absolute favorite (everyone I’ve given it to loves it!) The Combination Formula Kit also offers a wonderful range if you really want to dive in.
I recently tried acupuncturist and health coach Andrea Henkel’s custom blends. They are high quality, beautifully crafted, and smell wonderful. I especially love her Grounding Cedar roll on, and her various sprays are also a nice way to shift your energy quickly.
I visited Alaska with my family last year and bought a bottle of Alpenglow body lotion. I loved it so much I continue to order it online. Their products are super moisturizing, organic, and handmade from scratch (and include Alaskan snow as an ingredient). I plan to try it with my reflexology clients.
For the Taste: Teas & Spices
Rose Tulsi Tea is part of my morning routine. Tulsi, also known as Holy Basil, has stress relieving properties. There are many delicious flavors to choose from, but my inner-grandma adores anything rose.
Genmaicha Green Tea with toasted brown rice is my go-to afternoon tea at the office. It’s much more subtle than most green teas. Again, Choice Organic Teas has many delightful flavors and a wide variety of teas to choose from.
(You can also find both brands of tea at Whole Foods and health food stores. Perfect gifts for tea drinkers as these flavors are distinctive and go beyond the everyday black tea.)
This company sells fresh cinnamon you can grate yourself. I use cinnamon every day (delicious and super healthy). This one is on my Christmas list—Mom, are you reading this?
For Intuition: Tarot & Oracle Cards
Quan Yin Oracle Deck
This deck speaks to me every time I use it—full of gorgeous images, as well as powerful messages in the accompanying book by Alana Fairchild.
Vintage Wisdom Oracle Cards
This deck is a recent acquisition and includes beautiful old-fashioned montages artfully crafted from French vintage postcards and sepia family photographs. So pretty and nostalgic!
The Fountain Tarot
I love this modern adaptation of the Tarot—clean and sleek. And the accompanying booklet breaks down the meanings in a way that deeply resonates with me. I even used it with my mother-in-law—isn’t she the coolest?
The Devas of Creation
This deck illustrates the concept of the invisible energy patterns in the universe—wow, right? These cards are magical and can be used in many ways—for journaling, meditation, or daily guidance.
These decks are all powerful gifts for relaxation and self-reflection.
For the Feet & Body: Reflexology & Other Tools
My list of health and wellness gifts would not be complete without my top picks for reflexology tools.
Wooden Foot Roller
The tried and true wooden foot roller: simple, inexpensive, and effective.
The Stick Foot Wheel Massager
Quite a name, eh? Karen Ball, a wonderful reflexology teacher, found this reflexology tool (if you know me, you know I’m ALWAYS looking for new gadgets to try and my feet are pretty happy about this). I’m putting this one on my Christmas list.
Magic Weighted Blanket
I finally bought this weighted blanket and find it incredibly restorative for my nervous system. I sleep more deeply and find it incredibly calming. I’ve recommended it to clients, too.
For Ease of Use: Gift Certificates
No health and wellness gifts guide would be complete without including gift certificates for a healing session.
I’ve had clients request gift certificates from their loved ones for both sessions and Reiki classes—what a great idea (yes, I’m biased!) Of course, they also purchase certificates to give to others.
Give gifts for relaxation and stress relief with a Reiki, Reflexology, and/or Hypnosis session gift certificate.
- $175 for an hour session
- $265 for a 90-minute session
- $350 for a 2-hour session
You’ll receive an emailable Gift Certificate that you can forward to the recipient. If you prefer, I can mail you a hard copy gift certificate card with matching envelope, just give me your address or the address of the person you’d like me to send it to.
Less stress for you in terms of shopping, and you’re helping by giving gifts for stress relief for your loved ones.
Whew! Quite a range of health and wellness gifts, eh? I hope this helps you find something special and heart-centered for your loved ones.
I often hear 2 main concerns after a client’s first hypnosis session. Interestingly enough, these concerns are completely opposite from one another.
Sometimes a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I could hear everything you said during the trance.”
Other times a client will say, “I feel really relaxed and peaceful, but I’m not sure the hypnosis worked because I don’t remember anything you said during the trance.”
Curious, right? So which client was hypnotized?
Don’t be misled by theses 2 signs. Read on to find out more, and to discover what kinds of things hypnosis can help you with.
What is Hypnosis?
First, what is hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a state of focus, and quieting or softening, of the analytical or conscious mind. (Does hypnosis work? Yes, and you can read more about how it works here.)
So which client was hypnotized?
When you’re in a state of hypnosis and you hear every word the practitioner says, it means your conscious mind is paying close attention.
Alternately, when you don’t remember anything the practitioner said during the trance, it means your conscious mind drifted off.
Either way is best because with hypnosis I’m not speaking to the conscious mind anyway, I’m speaking to your unconscious mind.
The unconscious mind is 95% of the brain, and it’s where your deeply held beliefs, patterns, and behaviors are stored. Hypnosis helps you access this part of the mind to connect to your intuition and make positive changes.
What are some issues hypnosis can help with? Just this past week, I used hypnosis to help clients with confidence, sleep issues, chronic procrastination, anxiety, and public speaking.
Here’s what clients say about their experience with hypnosis:
I know a lot of people out there are skeptical about hypnosis or hypnotherapy. I was one of them too before I met Deborah. (By the way, I did a lot of research before making the final decision to see her.) I’ve had three sessions with Deborah so far. First two sessions, hypnosis helped me feel relaxed and calm emotionally. I could never imagine myself being so relaxed and peaceful, especially in the middle of Manhattan. No way! —Tom P.
A terrific session with Deborah, who’s friendly, powerful, generous. I am dealing with issues of grief, but also a touch of writer’s block…something I consider part of the process, but I figured hypnosis might push through my hesitancy. The next day I zoomed through the problematic part of what I was writing and am rolling on! Unbelievable, except I’ve had incredible results with Deborah before. –Katherine V.
I cannot express how amazing Deborah is and how drastically my life & outlook has changed for the better since my first hypnosis session. Seven months ago, I went to see her while I was in a horrible state of depression as I was re-adjusting back to my hometown of NYC after leaving a draining job but much more comfortable lifestyle in the Middle East, and rekindling a negative past relationship at the same time. Within 45 minutes of my first hypnosis session, I let go of lots of negative feelings from my past & present and felt so much happiness! –Sarah C.
Many people think hypnosis is an odd thing to do. That it won’t work for them. I encourage you to try it and have an open mind. It just might be more amazing in Session 1 than you imagine. My nutritionist recommended Deborah and so far I’ve lost 40 pounds. I’m very pleased and am down a size. I’m throwing my old clothes away because I’m convinced the changes are permanent.
I also actually enjoy our sessions a lot. I go into deep relaxation in a minute or two. Deborah has given me self-hypnosis exercises I do at home that help me relax, resist eating, and give me peace of mind. Before I tried hypnosis I thought I wouldn’t be a good subject. But I was wrong and would encourage you to give it a shot, whatever you are trying to achieve. –Jerry S.
I’d never been to a hypnotist before, but had struggled with anxiety disorder for at least a decade. I had tried a lot to improve it — diet, exercise, meditation, lowering stressors in my life — but was unwilling to turn to medication as a full-time answer. A friend had visited Deborah for her anxiety, so I decided it was worth a try.
The session felt very relaxing and enjoyable. Deborah taught me how to continue with self-hypnosis as needed. I felt much more relaxed after my session, and the anxiety symptoms didn’t return until a week later. I did the self-hypnosis and they were gone almost right away. They returned less intensely a few times after that, and each time I did the self-hypnosis. Now it’s been almost a year and those symptoms are (knock on wood) entirely gone. I had no idea it would work so quickly and efficiently!
Deborah said I was teaching my brain to channel anxiety in a different way, and even that visual helped me to re-imagine my experiences of fear and worry. I 100% recommend a session with Deborah, and suggest being completely open and trusting of what she’s saying. I don’t think it would work as well without trust in yourself and in her method. –Peggy K.
Have something you want to change or work through, and you’re not sure if hypnosis can help? Let me know and we can discuss it. I’m here to help! Or go ahead and book a session here.