I just finished a great class this past weekend with the amazing trainer John Overdurf.
We talked a lot about how the brain works when we’re trying to make a decision, and ways to optimize this process so we can make better ones.
Read on to discover the easy question you can ask yourself when you’re in the process of making a decision, as well as how hypnosis can put you in the right state of mind to have an Ah-ha moment.
Decision-Making Gone Wrong
We often forget a couple of key things when we make decisions.
1. We think that we can accurately predict the future, when actually variables are always changing (including us!).
2. We often try to make important decisions when we’re stressed. When we’re in a negative state, such as feeling stressed, we’re only using half our brain (the dominant hemisphere). This severely limits our options.
Hypnosis helps us use both parts of our brain, activating the sub-dominant hemisphere. This helps us access our intuition and creativity, feeling relaxed and connected to ourselves.
Hypnosis also helps us reinterpret problems, noticing what is new and different. This is when the Ah-ha moments happen, and we can come up with solutions we never even considered before.
One Simple Question
Here’s a simple question you can ask yourself when you’re getting ready to make a decision. Hypnosis greatly facilitates this process, but you can do this on your own as well. Before you ask this question, do something to get yourself in a relaxed state of mind.
Then ask yourself:
What’s the smallest next step I need to take involving this decision?
So often we think too big picture, and we become overwhelmed and stressed. Asking yourself this simple question makes it more manageable, and will give you more information to go on once you’ve completed this next smallest step as you engage in the process of making decisions.
Then you can repeat the question, step by step, working toward figuring out what you want to do.
Need some additional help? Schedule a hypnosis session and we’ll work through the process together.
Last week, one of my Reiki students sent me an email asking about the affirmation/oracle cards we used at the beginning of class. She wanted to get a set of her own to use in conjunction with giving Reiki sessions to friends and family.
It got me thinking about how these kind of cards are such an easy, yet powerful way, to connect with your intuition.
My sister gave me a set by Louise Hay, called Power Thought Cards, and I use them almost every day. It’s a quick way to tap into my intuition.
Read on to hear how you can use the cards, my favorite card deck recommendations, and a bonus way Reiki and hypnosis can help you connect with your intuition.
How To Use Affirmation/Oracle Cards
Here’s one way you can use the cards:
- Shuffle the deck, and while you do so, take a deep breath to give yourself a moment to relax: a moment of meditation.
- Ask yourself: “What do I most need to know in this moment?”
- Or ask yourself a question where you need guidance and insight.
- Pick a card and read it, without judgment, being open to receive whatever guidance you need.
- You can leave the card out to reflect on throughout the day.
Using cards can be a concrete way to bypass your critical mind and tune into a deeper part of yourself, your intuition.
Receiving sessions or taking a Reiki class enhances your access to yourself, and the healing unfolds from this inner connectedness, helping you trust yourself more.
What Cards Do I Recommend?
In addition to Louise Hay’s Power Thought Cards, I love Sonia Choquette’s Ask Your Guides and the Voyager Tarot card sets. There are so many options out there–explore and find ones that speak to you.
What are other ways you can build your connection with your intuition? Start paying attention to your intuition this week and see what you notice.
Want additional support? Book a session.
(And let me know if you want to pick a card at the beginning of your next session.)
Clients often ask me how they will be able to tell if they are in a trance. (I use the words trance and hypnosis interchangeably.)
This is a great question, as hypnosis does feel somewhat different from the relaxation of a Reiki or reflexology session. The closest comparison would be the experience of meditation.
But first, if you’re not familiar with hypnosis, I describe it in detail here.
This varies from person to person, but here are 10 ways to tell you’re in a trance:
1. You feel a change in your body. Again, everyone is different, but this might include tingling, numbness, heaviness or lightness, floating, or an absence of feeling in your body.
2. You feel a change in your mind. This might include a slowing down or quieting of that internal chatter, or inner critic. It’s an inward focus without the restrictions of the critical mind.
3. You’re not sure if you fell asleep. You may not remember everything from the session, which is a good thing. Your conscious mind may have drifted off, but I always ensure you’re still awake while your unconscious mind pays close attention to what I’m saying.
4. You can’t do math. Ha! This is one of my favorites. A client was trying to count out the bills to pay me after his session and it took him over 10 minutes. That’s what really convinced him he had been in a trance.
5. You’re more focused. Your mind is able to quiet and settle down and pay attention to what is most important.
6. You see visual imagery. Sometimes in technicolor! Some people are more visual than others, but it’s not uncommon to have a rich visual experience during a trance.
7. You’re not unconscious. Clients sometimes think they will be unconscious. It gets confusing using the words conscious mind and unconscious mind–but that doesn’t mean you’ll be unconscious during your session!
8. You’re more intuitive. I’ve had several clients tell me they knew what I was going to say right before I said it, numerous times during the hypnosis session. Clients often gain clarity and feel more connected to their intuition either during the session or after.
9. You lose track of time. The passage of time feels distorted: you may feel time moves very quickly, or feel like time is drawn out.
10. You feel deeply relaxed. This is an important one (although you don’t have to be relaxed to be in a trance). You feel peaceful and connected to yourself.
You can book here if you’re ready to experience hypnosis for the first time, or need a refresher or have another issue you want to change.
A few years ago, I could relate to this wholeheartedly. Here’s the situation. I received an award for a book of my poems, and as part of it, was required to participate in a poetry reading.
You think this would be an exciting, happy occasion, yet every time I even thought about the reading, I would have a feeling of deep dread in my stomach and I would literally want to throw up. Dramatic response, eh?
Maybe you can relate?
I see a lot of clients with a fear of public speaking–whether it’s giving presentations at work, performing in front of a large audience, giving a wedding toast, or simply being articulate in a small group setting–this is a common issue. (And it can be quite intense for people: one client was almost hyperventilating in my office!)
How did I overcome this deep fear?
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) Here’s a past post of what EFT is and how it works.
I’ve talked about this in previous posts and it’s still my #1 favorite way to make quick and easy changes.
So how did I use EFT? Every time I thought about the upcoming reading and felt that deep dread in the pit of my stomach I did a round or two of EFT/tapping. I tapped on everything I was worried about–fear of being judged, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of freezing up, fear of stumbling over my words.
Finally it was the night of the reading and it was my turn. I approached the podium, adjusted the microphone, and looked at the audience. Then the weirdest thing happened.
I realized I was savoring and enjoying the moment: I saw the well-known poet who had selected my work for the award, noticed some friends and family sitting in the back of the room, saw one of my favorite professors. I felt incredibly grateful for the opportunity, and was actually enjoying getting to read my poems and share my work.
It was bizarre–I had a thought that perhaps I wasn’t in the right body, as this was such an unusual feeling for me!
Rather than racing through the reading, I read through my poems in an expressive and animated way. I felt like I was really able to give it my all, and that I did my best. In my wildest dreams, I never thought I would actually enjoy the reading.
And I’ve had clients share similar dramatic experiences.
Now this is something you can do on your own (EFT is easy to learn), though sometimes people need extra support and come for hypnosis sessions. I show you EFT, we work though the things that trigger you, and you learn other self-hypnosis techniques to help you become a successful and eloquent public speaker.
And here’s some FAQ’s from clients about how to fine tune your tapping technique. Let me know how it goes!